Comments on: Here He Is Again

By: It’s Been a While « My Dark Cloud

It’s Been a While « My Dark Cloud — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 20:15:31 +0000

[...] been quiet and fine. The Monster lurks in the background, still commenting here and there on our family blog. Letting it be known that he is alive and well, and watching. But I’ve been mostly successful [...]

By: Camille

Camille — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 16:00:09 +0000

Maggy, thank you for your comment. I am sorry to hear about what you are experiencing with your husband. I would not wish a relationship with a sociopath on my worst enemy. But, good for you for trusting your instincts that something is wrong and investigating it. I highly recommend the book The Sociopath Next Door. Read it if you can and haven’t yet, and continue your quest for sister voices. They will help you more than anything else. Good luck and many peaceful thoughts to you.

By: Maggy

Maggy — Wed, 13 Feb 2008 04:08:31 +0000

I just “stumbled” across this, and I am so glad I did. I have been trying to figure for months about what exactly is “wrong” with my husband, and I started to do some research only to be faced with a truth that I believe with every fiber of my being that he is a sociopath. Classic symptoms, and I thank you for sharing because there are so many things that you shared that seem so much like him, especially the “winning” that needs to take place. And when comments like us dealing with ingrained impressions, etc – My God, I thought I was the one going crazy, but I so appreciate all of you and your comments – I need alot of help with this, and part of the help is knowing that there are others out there who share with me in my concern by sharing your own. Thank you for being so brave as to say what you have experienced. I wish you peace. Maggy

By: Camille

Camille — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 19:06:09 +0000

Hey Coco, if there is such a tool, please let me know. That would be awesome. We could also remove the anonymous comment feature on our blog, but a lot of our friends and family members use it as well, so it is not an option.

I like the word “broken” to describe my father. I really do think sociopaths come into this world missing some essential pieces that would otherwise make them a whole human being. Like a toy coming off the factory line missing a part that would make it functional and safe.

By: Coco

Coco — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 18:37:06 +0000

Your father is a sad, broken person. I feel a kind of distant pity toward him.

But you have power he will never have. Love, compassion, strength.

On a related note, I wonder if there’s a tool you can use to block his IP address from comments in your blog?

I’ll have to look.

By: Camille

Camille — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 04:26:39 +0000

Terra, thank you for such a lovely comment. I visited your blog and bookmarked it, I’ll be checking in.

Finding a community of like souls out there in the blogosphere has been most helpful as I muddle my way through all this baggage. I do think it is important for all of us, victims of sociopaths, to tell our stories. As loud and clear as we can based on our individual circumstances. If it can awaken even just a few to the dangerous reality of sociopaths around us, we’re doing something meaningful.

I started reading The Sociopath Next Door recently and it has already become tremendously helpful. A big bright light exposing so many dark, hidden corners.

By: terraflora

terraflora — Tue, 27 Nov 2007 02:06:23 +0000

I’m not sure exactly why it is that I find such comfort in our barely similar struggle to not let the sociopath win! Perhaps as we – survivors of sociopaths – continue to talk about them, expose them, and not allow society to continue to ignore them.. then there is hope that eventually ‘they’ will not be able to get away with all that they seamlessly do get away with today. ‘They’ will eventually NOT fit in so damned easily, pretending to be a human being among us.
I so appreciate the struggle and the story that you are willing to tell! It is so obvious that you are NOT letting him win. YOU are the one standing and watching his insanity.
That you have found Lovefraud.com and The Sociopath Next Door… I know your heart is in very good hands. Yours!